Dating after a long marriage
They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is wrong except these girls would like to take the relationship to the next level and their men have yet to agree.Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.
Are these worth addressing, accepting, or rejecting?Only time will tell how modern marriages are growing and changing from those started long ago.What do these timelines mean for you still waiting for your man to propose?On average, the couples in my study decided to marry 2.8 years after they first showed romantic interest (many couples knew each other before they dated, but that isn’t counted).This may reflect growing trends in the delay of marriage.
Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.